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365 Coaching Tips: 331st, 332nd & 333rd

November 27th Coaching Tip: Just 4:48.

Once again, I traveled on Thanksgiving morning. When I used to live in Houston, TX in the late 1990’s, I would fly from Houston to Indianapolis, rent a car, and drive to Mom and Dad’s home in Kentland, IN. I was able to arrive before my own family who lived in Indiana. Fast forward to today, I left at 6am from my door in Indiana. Took an Uber ride to the IND airport. Two-hour flight to RSW in Ft. Myers, FL. Got picked up by my driver, Ben. He dropped me off at 10:48am at my home in Naples, FL. Door to door on Thanksgiving morning took just 4:48. Four hours and 48 minutes on a holiday. Grateful for all the people that chose to work and assist all of us who are traveling. The kindness was everywhere; everyone was saying “happy Thanksgiving” and smiling, helpful, and nice, even though we were all working to get somewhere. Let’s keep that kindness going.

November 28th Coaching Tip: Cook At Home.

It’s Friday night and one of my best friends is coming to hang out for the weekend. We texted quickly and decided to cook at home this evening. With all the hustle and over-eating that surrounds Thanksgiving, it was the right decision.

At 8:30am this day after Thanksgiving, I headed to Aldi’s (only three other people in the store…it was lovely) and bought some groceries for dinner and for the next couple weeks, too. Here’s the menu for our Friday dinner at home: scallops seared in butter and garlic, fettuccini tossed in alfredo sauce, topped with salt, pepper, and parmesan cheese. Fresh salad with spinach, scallions, tomatoes and balsalmic dressing. For dessert, we made a strawberry cherry jello salad with whipped cream. No alcohol, just water. (The Aldi grocery prices allow you to afford an AMAZING dinner that’s healthy, in the comforts of your own home…try ALDI’s if you haven’t already).

Not sure how much this dinner would have cost us had we gone out, but probably $35-$50 per person. Instead, we ate at home, had a great conversation as we both cooked in the kitchen, and took our sweet time eating. We even delayed our dessert for over an hour. It was a yummy evening; cook at home.

November 29th Coaching Tip: Go See The Sunset.

It was a nice, slow, and relaxing Saturday in our south FL home. It was closing in on 3pm and my friend and I both were still un-showered and in our PJ’s. Finally, we looked at one another and said, let’s take a drive to the beach, grab a drink, and see the sunset. We quickly got cleaned up and jumped in the car and headed to the Gulf. We leveraged Ai and it confirmed, sunset was at 5:34pm E. Our goal was to be seated at the Ritz Carlton in Naples and having a drink and appetizer by 4:30pm E…or we wouldn’t have a seat. We made it, perfectly timed, and enjoyed the sunset. I got a few photos of my friend, and he quickly loaded those up as new profile photos. Don’t miss an opportunity to see the sunset. Sunsets have the “IT” factor; hard to explain, but they just have “IT”.

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365 Coaching Tips: 325th, 326th & 327th

November 21st Coaching Tip: Baking Up Traditions.

For decades, I’ve been baking bread, pumpkin bread and pie for Thanksgiving. It’s just what I do. One of my nephews loves my pumpkin bread, so I double up the recipe to make him a couple extra loaves; I give a couple loaves to my mom (she adds her cheeseball on top of the pumpkin bread) and of course, I make me some extra muffins as well.

Our family over the last few years just isn’t eating as much as we have in the past, so I have had more leftovers of my baking goods than previous years. As we celebrate in the future, making a single batch will probably be just fine. But I don’t want to stop baking; I love baking at Thanksgiving. It’s a pleasure to make goodies for my people, deliver it, and share the yummy-ness. I love traditions and until I die, I’ll keep baking pumpkin bread.

November 22nd Coaching Tip: Don’t Miss Celebrations Of Life.

As mom and I are prepping for our early Thanksgiving dinner, I let her know that I would need to leave in the middle of the day to go attend a celebration of life for my friend of nearly 20 years, Mike. My mom and dad were great examples of showing up: they made the decision to attend funerals to share their respects, meet with the family, and share stories. Showing up is a challenge at times of grief; sometimes it is exhausting to make the effort to go share your respect. However, I choose to think of it this way: whatever I’m feeling about this loss, the family is most likely feeling it all at a much deeper level. So just go to funerals, or send that sympathy note/card, or make a contribution in their honor to a charity of their choice, or call them a few weeks after the funeral/celebration of life is done and gone. Bottom line, don’t miss them.

November 23rd Coaching Tip: Early Thanksgiving.

Again this year, we as a family had to be flexible and make a Thanksgiving dinner work for nearly all of the family members to attend at my mom’s home in NW Indiana. We landed on the Sunday prior to Thanksgiving this year; last year it was the Sunday after Thanksgiving. My mother loves Thanksgiving and decorated her home so beautifully. She has a tradition of many of us sitting at her long, Amish-made cherry wood table, saying the Lord’s prayer together as we hold hands, and then topping it off by each of us sharing our thankfulness. It brings us to tears. This year, mom reminded everyone of how her grandmother (Kate) came here from Lithuania, from Antwerp to Ellis Island, after her boyfriend (William) had come three years earlier, worked, saved enough money to get her on her voyage to the USA. This message by my mom was so thoughtful, especially during these times of immigration crisis’s all over the world due to instability in the daily lives of many. Our early Thanksgiving was a beautiful gathering of our family and homemade food. We make it work, even though not everyone was able to attend.

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365 Coaching Tips: 316th, 317th & 318th

November 12th Coaching Tip: Catch Those Northern Lights.

My iPhone was all of the sudden starting to “blow up.” I was getting photos from my godson, his daughter, her mother, etc. Multiple photos. They were almost in tears, realizing that they were witnessing the Northern Lights. They were driving to their farm, the skies were dark, the stars were bright, and then they noticed the Northern Lights. Out popped their phones, and they just started taking photos.

I felt honored that they wanted to share their excitement with me; they felt pure joy. Only God can create those views, only God. The next evening, I was able to go outside and see the Northern Lights thru a photo, but I couldn’t witness them with the naked eye. Being in Indiana, this is not a normal thing to see the Northern Lights. If you can intentional, catch them.

November 13th Coaching Tip: Prepping for Appropriate Sleep.

We have a big weekend planned, with seven of us staying over in our newly remodeled home all weekend and a total of 16 of us pre-gaming for IU football versus Wisconsin. Sleep and steady pace at work were crucial this week. In fact, this evening I ordered some groceries, picked them up, drove to our “party” home for the weekend a whole evening early. I want to sleep well tonight, and also sleep in a bit on Friday morning.

Guess what? It worked. I slept great and was ready for our fun weekend ahead. Now that I’m in my 60’s, it’s in my best interest to get the appropriate amount of sleep. That means talk it over with your friends/spouse/family, and then get your sleep.

November 14th Coaching Tip: Show Up for Others.

Two years ago, Indiana University awarded me the Leanne Grotke award. The I-Association selects two female, former athletes who are still alive and making a difference in life and for IU. This evening, another one of my teammates was a winner of this prestigious award. Cindy was all-Big Ten all four years she played at IU, then she moved to California and soared with her career in the Cal State system teaching and inspiring other young adults. I was so glad that I showed up for her evening; Cindy’s parents and brother was there, and it was super to catch up with them, because we used to see them nearly every weekend during the season. And one other teammate showed up, Diane. Kindness showed up.

Was I busy? tired? Heck yeah I was. Do I have company coming over for the weekend? Yes I do. But it was the right thing to do to show up for Cindy. She appreciated it and we shared a moment about how we both have been deeply impacted by the horrors of dementia with those we love. Show up for others! We were basketball teammates, and now we’re teammates in life.

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365 Coaching Tips: 313th, 314th & 315th

November 9th Coaching Tip: Brunching On Sundays.

It was time to get together again with some of our friends, so we quickly made plans to do brunch on Sunday around 11am. Biscuits and gravy, eggs, grilled cheese sandwich and soup, coffee, bloody Mary’s, etc. were devoured as we caught up, and then began to plan our next weekend together. In a matter of minutes, we went from sitting around on Sunday to instead having a prayer over our meal, visiting with friends, and planning our next adventure. Take time to do the brunch thing on Sundays. It’s good for our health to socially connect; great for our overall wellness.

November 10th Coaching Tip: Back At It.

Got back on the treadmill these last few days, as I’m noticing that my VO2 Max has lowered since it was at the level of 39 when I was in great shape prior to the Summer National Senior Games. I took a break in August-October, as my right hip was tender and so were my Achilles tendon in my left leg. I’ve gained a few pounds, been walking, lifting, and doing my key exercises regularly.

But today it was time: I decided to warm up walking 3 minutes, then alternated between walking and jogging 8-9 minute mile pace for 2 minutes. It felt great that I was able to do this. Made me smile to be back at it. As I head to Naples, FL soon for the winter season, I look forward to get back at it there and do it outside. I’m also going to weave in more rowing and swimming to give my hips and Achilles some relief. But, back at it!

November 11th Coaching Tip: Get It In Writing.

As we age, wisdom kicks in. For example, if you “loan” money to a friend or family, life teaches us to ask the question: is this a loan or truly a gift? A “loan” is expected to be paid back; a gift is a present, not to be returned.

I have loaned money to very few people; one is a non-family member, and he and I always get an agreement in writing. We discuss it, then discuss it again, clarify it in handwriting, I take a photo of our handwritten notes, and then I email it to him. There is no misunderstanding. We have discussed it and agreed to it in writing. And he honors his commitment. IF you don’t know what to do: ask yourself an intentional and purposeful question that will reduce stress, increase wellness for both parties, “Is this a loan or is this a gift?” If it is a loan, get it in writing.

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365 Coaching Tips: 301st, 302nd, and 303rd

October 28th Coaching Tip: Take Care Of Your Toes.

It was time; go get a pedicure. I try to do it every three weeks. It’s an hour of time that I can completely relax and also care for my body. My feet are a priority to my overall wellness, since my favorite things to do are to walk and be outside, going to sporting events and working out. Taking care of my feet is and will continue to be a discretionary expense that I will keep in my budget. I’ve noticed that people who don’t take care of their feet tend to have ingrown toenails, nail disease, unattractive callouses, etc. Another thing that I have noticed is that as people age or get pre-diabetic or diabetic, some people have a hard time reaching their toes. Then, those toes are not cared for. This can create long tern issues. Take care of your toes.

October 29th Coaching Tip: An Evening With The Gals.

We love Italian dinners. We love our friends. And, we love celebrating birthdays. So we blended the three loves together, and five of us met, had wine and appetizers, opened some gifts, had dinner and yes, dessert. We arrived at 5:30pm, and rolled out of the restaurant around 7:50pm. We enjoyed the dining, our server was super, and he just let us talk and spend quality time together. Not once did we feel rushed, not once. We all got caught up, planned our next gathering for mid-November, and something for the summer of 2026 in Michigan. Get your time with your pals; it’s a huge indicator for long term wellness, your ability to keep strong social connections with some key people in your life. It doesn’t have to be family; it’s great if it is family, but friends who have deep, shared connections can be very healthy. Plan an evening with your people, the gals, the guys, the family.

October 30th Coaching Tip: Get Some Sunshine.

It’s fall, leaves are gorgeous, and it’s the day before Halloween. I purposefully went outside today to walk and soak up this fall weather, before it turns to winter. My walks included spitting rain in the morning, breezy winds in the afternoon, and cooler temperatures in the early evening. However, it was worth it. Being outside walking is my favorite thing to do; it’s free and full of freedom. And yes, there were a few moments of the sun shining thru the golden leaves; I stopped to take some photos and soak up some sunshine.

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365 Coaching Tips: 298th, 299th & 300th

October 25th Coaching Tip: College Football Coaches Are CEO’s.

Top college football programs are multi-million dollar businesses. These football programs and coaches can transform universities and towns. This can work both ways; if the program wins, the benefits extend to an unmeasurable impact because it’s so large. If the football program loses, there are less visitors and fans, economic development, merchandise sold,

I’m feeling it and witnessing it as an alum of Indiana University. Our football program has been average to poor since our football team went to the Rose Bowl in the 1960’s. Sure, IU Football has gone to some other bowl games, but the fans haven’t been flocking to IU’s Memorial Stadium for decades. Now they are. Why? Because IU made the commitment to the football program, fired a nice head coach who did ok, and then hired a winning coach who had been overlooked for decades at numerous other programs.

In less than two years being on IU’s campus, Coach Cignetti has lit a fire under the IU students and alumni with the team’s winning performances last Fall and again this Fall. In fact, Coach Cig has the Hoosiers ranked #2 in the USA, only behind undefeated Ohio State and last season’s National Champ. Coach Cig isn’t just coaching college student athletes, he’s leading assistant coaches, trainers, volunteers; he’s in front of the media regularly and getting his “winning” viewpoint across to everyone. The IU alumni are now attending games, buying merchandise, paying attention, creating hype, etc. This may drive the University to add more high-quality seats to the 58,000 seat Memorial Stadium, which is 40,000 to 50,000 less seats than at Penn State, Tennessee, Michigan and Ohio State. When the new high-quality seats and suites are added, those fans will expect an upgrade in hotels, housing (AirBnB), restaurants, tourism, shopping and safety in the area nearby Memorial Stadium. The impact of an elite college football program and how it’s coach leads, wins, and communicates are BIG MONEY. (And I haven’t even mentioned all the NIL deals for the student athletes, which is multiple millions of dollars to attract top talent now.) Change is happening in college sports; in my opinion, there’s not a more important leadership decision than WHO is your college football coach. Do the math: 50,000 additional seats x $100/seat x 6 home games = an incremental $30 million dollars per year in revenue. Yes, there will be infrastructure costs to get those extra 40-50,000 seats, but the revenue is undeniable. An donor and businesses may fund that infrastructure.

October 26th Coaching Tip: VO2 Max Matters.

What is VO2 Max and what makes it so important to longevity? VO2 Max is the maximum amount of oxygen your body can consume during exercise. In other words, it is your cardiovascular fitness measurement. My wellness goal is to have VERY good and elite level VO2Max. I learned how important it is when I read the book by Dr. Peter Attia, “Outlive.” It’s now a favorite and I have it “pinned” on my Apple iPhone “Health” info app. (free, on your iPhone)

Currently, my VO2 Max is at 35.8. For my age of 61 years old, that’s in the high range. This summer, I achieved my highest VO2 Max level (since I’ve been measuring it) of 39.8, as I prepped for the National Senior Games. How did I do it? I was doing regular high intensity interval training, with sprints, fast walking, and rowing for over 18 months. Since August, I have taken a bit of a break from the HIIT training that I was doing for 18 months. My brain was telling me to give my hips and Achilles tendons some relief. So I have done that, and so my VO2 Max has dropped 4 points. Now that I’m more rested up and fully recovered from a September cold, I’ll be doing the HIIT training again soon as I head to Naples for the winter.

October 27th Coaching Tip: Practice, Practice, Practice.

Next week, I’ll be speaking with some of my colleagues five different times. Although each time is 30 to 50 minutes, while sharing the “stage”, it’s important to prep, know what you’re going to say, what topics are relevant and on the mind of the audience, and how we engage the audience, are ALL very important as we prep.

The best speakers make it look easy, and it’s because they know exactly what they are going to say, when, with the right tone and pace, etc. They know when to smile, to pause, to raise their voice, to use their hands to reinforce a point. This is because they have practiced. Some of the best leaders are the best communicators. When a leader can articulate clearly and simply, it’s very helpful for the audience/team/company that you are leading. If you’re going to speak, take time to intentionally practice, practice, practice.

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365 Coaching Tips: 295th, 296th & 297th

October 22nd Coaching Tip: Get Caught Up.

As I drove home from work today, I realized that I forgot to update my notes today and leverage our CRM tool for my key activities. When I got home, I grabbed my work cell phone and put 30 minutes on my calendar first thing for tomorrow morning to quickly get done what I had forgotten to do today. We all forget to do things from time to time; it’s how you handle them moving forward. Get caught up, quickly. This will help declutter your mind and also builds confidence with your colleagues and clients, indicating that you have integrity and are dependable.

October 23rd Coaching Tip: Quick 15 Minutes.

Today I visited with two women who needed clarity on their business growth and also in organizing their work week. In a matter of 15 minutes with each of them, we jumped in quickly, they gave me an update on what they had been working on since I visited with them for one hour each over the last couple weeks.

I was proud of these women, because they both are committed to personally growing to help grow their businesses, and I could feel their willingness to get better. They both emailed after our 15 minute, quick session today and were so happy to be coached and to already start feeling progress. Don’t ever underestimate the power of a quick 15 minute accountability check-in.

October 24th Coaching Tip: Thinking Ahead.

Knowing that I had a one on one with my boss today, I got her my update a couple days ago. When we met for 30 minutes, we both were prepared. Again, thinking ahead, in early November, I’ll be heading to a conference in Florida to learn from national experts on a wide variety of topics; I’ll also be speaking at three different breakouts on three different topics. Yes, three. Today, I really took some time to prep on how I would be organized with my thoughts, focused on being easy to understand for the benefit of the audience, and be relaxed as I’m getting ready now to help reduce any stress.

As a professional that others rely upon, are you thinking ahead? Are you prepared? Are you remaining relevant, or falling behind? Think ahead. You’ll thank yourself, and yes, always stay present when you are with your clients. Think ahead AND be present.

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365 Coaching Tips: 292nd, 293rd & 294th

October 19th Coaching Tip: Let It Rain.

We finally got some rain. The ground was very dry; as the farmers harvested their fields, the dust was heavy. I was thinking about planting some trees and perennials, but it had been too dry. The rain sounded so pleasant as it hit the metal roof that I even got up to open the windows to hear it rain. Sleeping with those windows open was good; I slept a bit longer and also deeper. Let it rain, let it all soak in. The good Lord has perfect timing with all things and the rain today was one of many perfectly timed things.

October 20th Coaching Tip: Embrace AI.

It’s here and it’s not going away. What? AI. It’s here. It’s everywhere. For example, when you order something on Amazon, pretty soon, you will be getting similar products recommended. If you ask Siri a question on your iPhone, you may soon receive info on the topic that you asked about. Here’s what happened to me today: 1) I looked at an advertisement for a piece of jewelry, 2) clicked on the 15% and provided my email. Within minutes, I was receiving ads of similar looking jewelry but by different brands. It happened within seconds.

At work, our company made the decision to rollout Microsoft Teams and with it is included “Copilot”, which is a virtual person assistant on your laptop. Those who are utilizing it are getting work done much faster and it is saving time. My thoughts are if you don’t embrace and others do embrace it, you’ll be far behind and it’ll be hard to catch up. BUT, always remember that humans would to be noticed and loved. So do both, embrace AI and love others.

October 21st Coaching Tip: Racism Is Roaring.

Both of my godsons have let me know that in the last few days, they have been subjected to racial comments. These men are now in their mid-30’s, and they both are indicating that they have never heard comments like they are hearing now. For example, one of them said a black lady yelled at him and told him to go back to Mexico. The other said that as he was bartending, a white man was saying racist stuff that he had never heard.

As racism roars, I’m proud of my godsons for not engaging and moving on. Racism comments are unacceptable, and yet leaders in our country think that it’s ok to be selectively racist. Be better. As our mothers and grandmothers taught us, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Be intentionally better, treat others with respect and kindness.

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365 Coaching Tips: 286th, 287th & 288th

October 13th Coaching Tip: Check The Weather.

As I was packing and prepping for the work week, I repetitively checked the weather forecast for New York City. Flying there on a Tuesday, walking to work across Manhattan in three different buildings, I wanted to ensure I had the right closing for comfort and warmth, and of course the Fall breezy days. I also was checking the weather for the weekend, since we have football tickets to a home game for Michigan State at Indiana University.

I packed very well, and noticed that as I went thru the entire week with work and dinner clothing needs, as well as working out and sleep gear, I had packed just one extra tank top. The two extra scarves that I took worked well, as the sun went down in the evenings and I wore them to stay warm as I walked back from work/taxi drop offs.

As for the IU football game, intense weather alerts had been issued for game day. However, as I kept an eye on the weather very closely, it appeared to me that there would be no rain or threat of bad weather until about halftime. Sure enough, that’s exactly how it played out. I went to the game, stayed til halftime, then drove to our home to watch the second half. Meanwhile, as I was making the short 12 minute drive home, IU officials postponed the game and had all of the fans leave their seats and take cover under the stands. Check the weather; it can be a simple check on your cell phone to help you be safe and sound.

October 14th Coaching Tip: Business Decisions.

In the last few days, I have a rental property that has been available for a few weeks. Surprisingly, we have not had much interest; however, in the last few days, I have received two rental applications after my realtor showed it to them both. Both of these men felt they were going to be selected and communicated well with me. But, business decisions are just that: business decisions.

My CPA helps me with my taxes and making good tenant decisions purely on the data that he reads in the rental applications. Both tenants made alot of money and were going thru divorces. One (let’s name him “Mike”) had a higher credit score than the other candidate. Mike also had nothing on his background check and was less pushy in the process. My CPA recommended that we go with Mike. Although the other tenant had no pets and Mike had a cat, Mike was willing to pay a non-refundable pet deposit, too. Use data intentionally to help make great business decisions. Lead yourself with good leadership decisions.

October 15th Coaching Tip: You have options.

My mom got a recall notice on her Mitsubishi SUV. She called up her normal dealer and they were indicated that they didn’t know how to fix it. So mom called me; I reminded her that I used to be in charge of warranty and recall notices for Caterpillar. She had forgotten so I reminded her that she can take her Mitsubishi to any Mitsubishi dealer to get the recall fixed. 

Today, she proudly called me as she drove home from another dealer and said they got it done in 40 minutes and had been doing them all week. Remember, you have options. Use them! 

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365 Coaching Tips: 274th, 275th & 276th

October 1st Coaching Tip: Love me some Yankees.

When I was a kid, we used to watch the Major League Baseball playoffs at elementary and middle school, and then when we got home at night. That’s when I fell in love with the Yankees. A homerun king, Reggie Jackson, caught my attention by hitting three homeruns in one game. I was smitten! And since that evening as an eighth grader, I have been a Yankees fan. (On October 18, 1977, in the sixth game of the World Series against the Los Angeles Dodgers, New York Yankees outfielder Reggie Jackson hit three home runs in a row off of three consecutive pitches from three different pitchers.)

“Oh The Places You’ll Go” by Dr. Seuss reinforces how important it is to go see difference place. My recommendation is to expose your kids to winners, and losers, to new terrain, to new foods and new cities, etc.. Oh the places that you will see as well. I’ve taken friends and family to the new and former Yankee Stadium. I was able to go to two games with my niece Katie and my nephew Kyle; niece Ally and I went to one game. Let’s Go Yankees!

October 2nd Coaching Tip: Get To Your Destination.

Today starts a 5-day vacation. We are making our annual Fall trek to Michigan. We both have family stories from Michigan, so we enjoy wandering thru MI in the Fall, stopping at farm stands, taking in the views of barns, wineries, orchards, farms, lakes, etc. We made the decision to be on the road (with three stops) nearly 6.5 hours to get to Traverse City. On the way, we stopped at a road-side farm stand and I bought one apple, small jar of local jam, local potato chips, and a pint of blueberries for $2. Yes, just $2!

Our goal was to get to our destination, so that we can truly enjoy our short stay up north, visit with some family, and see more sights. We head to a town we’ve never been before today, Charlevoix. Can’t wait. Get to your destination!

October 3rd Coaching Tip: Communicate Clearly.

At 815am this morning, an electrician called me from one of my house projects that was eight hours away. After a quick and thankful greeting, “happy Friday, thanks for calling me first thing in the morning”, we got to work. By communicating clearly what I needed worked on in three locations in the garage, outside, and in a barn, we were able to be on the same page. I then called my contractor, and he indicated he would be there in minutes. Why did I call the contractor? Because I spent a few minutes with him a couple days ago explaining what I needed the electrician to do. We three were all on the same page, because I had taken the time to 1) clearly identify what I wanted, 2) told my contractor in advance, too, and 3) told the electrician and also asked him for feedback.

A few minutes after the electrician and the contractor spoke, the electrician called me back and gave me an idea that would save me money and save him time and be just as effective. Communicate clearly…and let people know that you truly want their ideas and feedback. It works!